Prioritizing my own needs is something I have always struggled with, and then I had kids and found the struggle even more painful. As a sensitive soul, a nurturer, and motivational coach, I love to focus on other people – how I can help them, how I can inspire them, how I can use my own experiences to support them and encourage them to ask for more/better/different things in their life. It is often easier for me to see the potential and the beauty in others than it is to see it in myself. Can you relate?
Imagine this scenario: you have a friend who you know to be radiant, strong, confident, smart, and all those other good things that drew you to him/her in the first place. Every time you are with this friend, you compliment her, feel empowered by her, and try to let her know just how much she means to you and how much good she deserves in this world!
Then you look in the mirror.
And your reflection shows a badass woman who is likely all those things you see in your friend, but your eyes only see the flaws, the frustrations, and the improvements needed.
Or worse, you don’t even take the time to look in the mirror because you are too busy with your kids, your job, your relationships, etc. All those excuses; all those things to check off your list.
Why is it so hard for you to see your own Divinity and recognize your own soul’s wishes and hopes and dreams and even your basic needs?
This week’s weekly coaching video discusses the importance of quieting your self-doubt and breaking your goals down into small, actionable steps.
But what if you don’t even take the time to recognize that you have goals/hopes/dreams? Or you don’t feel worthy of pursuing them? What if you are so busy worrying about everyone else or trying to keep up with others that you don’t even believe you have the time to take one small step?
How do you fit yourself into your “to do” list, and do so consistently?
As a mom, my days are full of tedious, repetitive, often frustratingly-boring tasks and my children often demand most of my attention and energy when they are awake.
My girls, being as young as they are (3&1), are still very dependent on me for basic survival needs – food, water, warmth, comfort, clean clothes, diapers, bum wipes, etc. But I’m also beginning to see just how much Zoey (3), is looking to me for guidance. She is beginning to mimic me and watches me closely, her little brain constantly absorbing and processing how I share my energy and ideas with her, her sister, her dad, and the rest of the world.
That has been the motivator for me to start prioritizing my own happiness and health. I need to teach my daughters they are worthy of laughter, joy, relaxation, and all the other good things that come when you take care of your mind, body and spirit.
I need to teach them (and to keep reminding myself) that other people’s journeys are their own and that comparison, jealousy, self-doubt, guilt and shame are all wasted emotions.
Granted, I believe there is power in recognizing these feelings and in honouring why they are coming up, but I want to teach my girls to acknowledge those feelings in a healthy and productive way, asking, “What does my soul need to feel loved, heard, special, treasured?”
These are the lessons I want to teach my kids, and it is why I am so passionate about teaching achievement addicts and hustlers like you to take the time to tune in and listen to what your soul needs. To build your mindfulness and use other spiritual tools to help you feel present, loved, nurtured, seen and heard.
The more we take care of ourselves and honour our own desires and needs, the more we set a strong example for the next generation. These kids are sensitive and intuitive. Let’s use that to our advantage, teaching them how to listen to their souls, to be kind to others and – sometimes most importantly – to be kind to themselves as they learn and grow.
It’s a win-win.
Sending you heaps of love and worthiness,
Affirmations to help you feel worthy and strong:
“I am an inspiring leader to my children, my partner, and my community.”
“My goals, hopes and dreams are meant to be pursued.”
“I am worthy of some time to myself.”
“I love and honour myself and my needs.”
“By taking care of myself, I can better take care of my kids.”
“As I love myself, I teach others to love.”